Cerin wrote:I find this trial by internet to be absolutely horrifying. It's good to be a nobody in this day and age.
Disturbing indeed.
If anyone is promoting 'trial by internet' or trying to skew opinion with public proclamations, it's the president, who should not be making such comments, public or otherwise. His behavior is deplorable and disgusting. Decent men do not behave like this. It's the good ol' boys club. Laughter and derision at the expense of a woman. Ford is only a female, after all. Men are Important and have Important Jobs and Families. Your Sons will be Men and Important. Ford is just an adjunct to a Man, so she doesn't count.
((**Edited; removed personal experience-no need to have that recorded in a public forum in perpetuity**)) Thank you to those who have shown love & support. Right back at you.
This is what Trump is doing (in publicly mocking Christina Ford). No matter what did or did not happen between Ford & Kavanaugh, Trump should let investigators do their job. A full, proper investigation. This type of behavior is not about sex, it is about power, control, submission, and entitlement. Trump knows exactly what he is doing. It's what he always does. He's a bully.
It's been discussed that we cannot beyond doubt tell if someone is telling the truth or how someone might act if they are lying or are falsely accused. I agree. It's something of a no-win situation because, conversely, how does one act when they are concealing guilt of an accusation that has merit? Seldom do they 'fess up. Often it's deny, deny, deny. Vehemently. That is why a proper investigation would be helpful. Character matters. Behavior matters. Especially for a such an important position. While not pointing specifically at Kavanaugh and what he did or did not do, perpetrators of these types of actions are usually indignant and angry at their victims. To justify their behavior they have rationalized their actions, 'they were too young, they couldn't possibly remember anything like that and they are making it up', 'it was too dark, they've mistaken me for someone else', 'they wanted it too', 'they were drunk', 'they were asking for it', 'it doesn't matter because it wasn't full penetration', etc.. etc.. I've heard a great many rationalizations. All that said, Kavanaugh's drinking matters. His character matters. If he drank to the excess that has been hinted at, it could be that he has no recollection of such an event. Or in his eyes (if it occurred) was just a little 'fun'. Victims & perpetrators often see a situation through different lenses. Even the times change our perception of an event.
The whole thing is disgusting and the president and those senators who (essentially) cover their ears and say, "I don't wanna hear this and I don't want to believe it so la-la-la-la I can't hear you" are enabling a miscarriage of justice. They should want to know the truth (as much as is possible) and it should matter.
Maybe your mom has chosen this way to distance herself from the truth of her own experience, and thus other people's as well. Some people seem to go this way, and I wonder if some of Blasey Ford's most virulent critics are similarly denying their own experiences.
