Oh, Wampus, what a hard thing to hear.... I'm sorry. I've had you in mind and will be praying for you and Gary with all my heart.
Jnyusa's right, too. This isn't the time -- while you're in shock from the news and haven't really even surveyed this new (scary, unknown) landscape yet -- to be giving up on all treatment. To know what exactly is worth pursuing and what should be avoided takes a lot of research and consideration. There may certainly be some options out there that are better than others. (In my mother's case, there was a whole experimental program for her rare disease out there her own doctor had not even heard of -- I found the program on the Web. Just to say that at THIS POINT you don't know that much yet; a month from now you'll be such an expert in all of this you'll be amazed.)
Does Gary have adequate moral support as he goes through this initial shock -- and then beyond it? Do you? I mean, apart from each other, for I can see how much you support each other. The main thing, the very most important thing, is to make one's life as meaningful as possible. Warding off depression and despair is really important, and the medical doctors often neglect this side. You can do this thing, Wampus. I'm so sorry you have to, but you can do it.
Remember that even in the darkest hour there is always hope. Do listen to the words of Jn and Teremia. They are wise.
